Lately I’ve been thinking about our inner circles and how important they are to a productive and meaningful life.
I talk to people a lot about their circles of friends – specifically their close circles. Many of the people I speak to are struggling and overwhelmed and feel that they aren’t getting the emotional support they need from others.
We really need to evaluate who belongs and who doesn’t – and close that circle.
There are people in your life who are there to plant seeds and there are people in your life who are there to pick the fruit. You need to recognize the difference. Some folks are invested in your life and interested in a relationship with you – and others are there to get whatever benefits them from their association with you. They are not making an emotional deposit in your life – and that’s something that you really need to think about.
If you pay attention to the ebb and flow of people in your life, seeing the difference becomes easy…
You have loyal friends and you have acquaintances.
Be on the lookout for the people who will stand up for you when you are not around – those who will defend your reputation and your name anytime and anywhere. These people belong in your circle.
If you are like most of us, you will see that your inner circle is small – and that’s not a bad thing, my friends.
You then have a larger circle of friends bordered by an even larger circle of acquaintances – and it’s not that they don’t matter. They do, but just not in your close circle.
And don’t spend so much time worrying about whether certain people like you or not. Stop it.
If people don’t like you, that’s their issue. They are judging you based on something, whatever that something is – and if they don’t have the moral character and respect to want to get to know you for who you really are – let it go.
And on the flip side…
You can’t judge a book by its cover. You can’t judge someone on the chapter that you are walking in on. You have to give people the respect to get to know them – and if by chance they are not your type of people, it’s not that you don’t like them either.
So if a person didn’t reach out to you the way you think they should have – it’s not something that benefits them in their day-to-day life. That’s OK. That person is an acquaintance.
Everybody has a life. Everybody is busy. Everybody struggles. Everybody has a story…
But when we’re all in the same sandbox, we can all play together. Doesn’t that make sense?
How about you? Are you planting seeds or picking fruit?
Some people come into your life for a reason. Maybe that reason is to teach you a lesson. Maybe it’s temporary. Maybe it’s a time in your life where that person appears when you somehow need them – and some people only come into your life for a season.
That’s OK too.
My friends: If somebody walks out of your life – let them go.
Jeff Yalden is a speaker and Amazon bestselling author focusing on mental health, motivation and suicide prevention. Find out more about Jeff HERE.
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